Being fat sucks. Being a fat lesbian sucks. This is something I've always known but recently I've started to see how much I regret it in completely different ways than I once did. The stigma that comes along with being a heavy person goes far beyond what one might comprehend. People immediately think your dirty, stupid, ignorant, lazy and sloppy. These are qualities that don't come with size but yet as personalities. I hate that these are the things that are immediately thought of me. And in a lot of instances people don't take the time to get to know a person to find out that these things aren't true. No matter what my size ends up being I will never put a persons look, size or situation ahead of getting to know them because I will always be "that girl" deep down.
I've had jobs turn me down simply because of my size, regardless of being qualified or not. I've had medical problems go ignored and blamed simply on my weight. People have lost out on being friends with me because they never took the time to get to know me. This all makes me realize what a sad, sad world we live in. Being fat isn't the only obstacle that will get you ignored the way I have been. Being a different color, having a disability, age, dressing beyond the norm, being GLBT are just a few among the many of things that will have others look the other way. If nothing else this journey has taught me to be more tolerant of others. This is something I would like to spread around a bit as well.
I challenge my readers this weekend. I receive about a hundred unique views a day on my blog. I challenge each and every one of you to warmly say hi and possibly engage in a conversation with someone who normally wouldn't. Even if it's a warm smile to the gay couple walking across the street, or offering the elderly woman help with reaching something in the grocery store, compliment the shoes on heavy set girl who is obviously trying to blend in by wearing something cute. I'm not asking you to befriend everyone who might run into today. I'm just asking that you say hello, and smile. You have no idea how much of a difference that makes in a persons day who is normally met with shrugs, frowns, abuse or being ignored. And who knows, maybe that help will brighten your day too.